As I sit here watching my kids playing in a waterfall of bubbles (thanks bubble machine!) my eyes keep drifting to my two year old son. Just this afternoon, during one of our daily lunch conversations, I heard his sweet little voice on the other end saying “Mommy, I wove youuuuuuu!” As I watch him bounce in the bubbles, I can’t help but think of another 2 yr old boy and how his mother will never again here his little voice say “Mommy, I wove youuuuuuu!” I get to hug my little guy tight, when he lets me (hugging a two year old is a difficult task). But another mommy will never again get the chance to hug her little guy tight. The guilt that will live/drive/consume that family will never be as great as it is at this moment and we have failed this family! We have, in a sense, kicked this family while they are down as low as they can be! This family will live the rest of their lives with the regrets of that night. They aren’t bad parents, just parents! No one will judge them more harshly than they will judge themselves! Why must we be so cruel to a family that is suffering in a way that is only unimaginable to most of us!
My heart breaks, for a family that will go home from vacation, to a house that is still full of two year old life without the two year old to go with it! I wish we had more compassion for suffering! What makes us so thirsty for judgement? What makes us sharpen the claws? If it were your friend’s child, would you be so quick to label? It’s easy to coach from the sidelines, its another story to be a part of the game! We can all say what we would have or would not have done, it doesn’t change what happened! There will never be a crueler payment for decisions than the loss of your child!
To the Graves’ family, I am SORRY for the harshness you have and will endure from this cruel nation! I am sorry that you have experience the best parts and worst part of your son’s life! I’m sorry you are suffering a pain that NO PARENT SHOULD EVER have to endure!